Wednesday, December 2, 2009

Clarence


Frank had a three man operation. He and Stan were the masons and Clarence was the laborer. Clarence did all the support work and the three of them worked together on the job to get ready to lay blocks and bricks. Clarence mixed the mud (mortar for laying block), carried and stacked the blocks and bricks, dug the footers and cesspools, pulled up the forms, cleaned up the sites. You get the idea. Keep in mind this was a small operation. They had no cement mixer. No backhoe. No bobcat. Only shovels, hoes, digging bars, sand screen, hands and backs. During the peak periods Frank needed an extra laborer, and I was it.
So, at 17 I signed on to be another pair of hands and a back. Frank turned me over to Clarence to show me how to work. He taught me the way to dig so I could dig all day in the hot sun, and how to carry two 60 pound blocks and swing them up on a chest-high scaffold, and how to mix mud and set cesspool blocks and rings and how to get a 200 pound bluestone chimney cap up two 16 foot ladders. He and I often worked alone on site preparation. We dug footers and cesspools. Now there is a job. A cesspool was built in the ground in a hole that was 10 or more feet deep and about 10 feet around. We dug them by hand. Clarence taught me to throw dirt a long way. Then we dropped the blocks into the hole and Frank built the round cesspit walls. We had lots of time to talk over the years we worked together, but Clarence was a man of few words and I could keep my own company when needed. Lunch time was different. We had 45 minutes to rest and eat and talk. He talked about the world of black men and segregation. How he grew up into that world and how he navigated through it. He owned several houses that he rented out, and had a comfortable retirement planned. He was about 60 when we met.
He talked about the events in the South and I listened, but I didn’t understand. It was the time of Brown v Board of Education and Rosa Parks. I was a middle class white boy living in New York and didn’t have a clue what was going on. One day we were talking about racism and he said “If a man steals corn from your field that doesn’t mean the next man coming down the road will steal your corn.” I never thought it did, but that is part of the core of racism.
I went off to college in the South and saw firsthand what he was talking about.
Clarence was a teacher, mentor, business man, laborer, husband, father and more. I learned a lot from him. He was strong and lean, and dignified. He retired, died, and I never got to tell him that I finally understood what he was trying to tell me. But I did in the end understand. And Clarence, thank you.
Signs: http://www.wvu.edu/~lawfac/jscully/Race/images/colored%20sign.jpg
Rosa Parks: disarminginjustice.files.wordpress.com/2009/0

Burning Castor Oil: Gotta Love It.


Jim Croce again. Rapid Roy was a dirt track demon. Ah, the dirt track at Riverhead. Saturday nights in the summer with the roar of highly tuned old engines. The time was the mid 50’s and the stock cars were cut up coups from the thirties and forties with a few early fifties thrown in for good measure. Flat head Vee-eights, straight eights, flat head sixes and OHV sixes. In the unlimited classes some OHV eights. The roar of straight pipes and the smell of castor oil and burning rubber. Occasionally a wheel would break off and come straight into the stands and everybody would duck. Local farmers, welders, mechanics and a few teachers and doctors. Mostly the same cars every week.
Then, Geraldo showed up. Shiny black ’37 coup with an OHV vee-eight. Black driving suit. Black helmet. Rumor was that he was a hair dresser from Queens somewhere. He was a terrific driver with a great car (grumble: probably paid to get his car that good. Not a good old boy like the rest). He raced week after week and year after year. What a thrill to watch him eat the track and the locals. They were all good drivers and sometimes someone beat Geraldo, but not usually.
Fourth of July fireworks. Beer in cups. Smells. Noise. What a treat. Driving home after the races was a thrill too, because it was a race.
I’m going to get some castor oil and burn it on the grill the next time I barbecue. I hope it smells as sweet as I remember. I’ll let you know.
Photo: winfield.50megs.com/Cowley/oldstockcars_4.htm

That other Mother again


They went to bed under the stars on the Nebraska plains. Light sleeping bags were all they needed to keep the chilled night air and dew from becoming too uncomfortable. My father and his brother woke up early, got a small fire going and passed the time until full daylight planning the rattlesnake hunt for the day. Little did they know. As the sun came up, my mother stirred then suddenly froze. "Hal? There is something in the bottom of my sleeping bag. When I move it buzzes" Right. It was a fairly large rattle snake that had crawled into her bag during the night for warmth. The brothers discussed the possible ways to get the snake out without getting her bitten and came up with a plan. "Stay still until the sun warms the bag. The snake will come out on it's own and then we'll shoot it." So she did. For hours she lay unmoving as gradually the snake warmed up and moved up over her body to the open end of the bag. It poked out it's head. "No shot. Wait a little longer" my father said. Finally the reptile got out and started to move away. A single shot to the head killed it instantly. After some coffee and a late breakfast they hunted rattle snakes. What a woman!

Tuesday, December 1, 2009

The Merc who Cried


He was big. Cropped hair. Rough look. The kind of man nobody would mess with.

Sal and I were in the Keys for a week of fishing and relaxing. We rented a cheap duplex with a ramp and kept the 13' Whaler close by. One afternoon we decided to stop for a beer at a local bar, really more like a lean to scabbed on to the side of a building. The only people there were sitting at the bar. All the tables were empty. We wanted a bit of space and privacy so we grabbed a table a few away from the bar and got a couple of drafts. We spent a couple of hours talking about the world, us and the guys, eyeing us with suspicion, at the bar. The big quiet guy caught our attention. We speculated about what he might be and why he was there on a weekday afternoon. We decided he was a mercenary in between jobs. Back from Africa probably and waiting for the next contract. Clearly a man not to mess with.

About 3 hours into the afternoon we finally needed some food and ordered something. By this time the locals had stopped paying attention to us, figuring, we thought, we were not a threat. Just strangers spending an afternoon like them, drinking and getting out of the sun.

Slowly, the Merc (as we called him) got up from the bar and turned towards us. Strong arms in a camo jacket of sorts hung loosely at his sides. He looked at us without expression. I mean he had a hard look, not a glare exactly, but no joy there. Not mean exactly either. Hard.

He slowly walked over to our table - graceful- powerful- and we thought (as we discussed later) "crap, we're in for trouble now." Then we saw the change. His face softened and tears rolled down his cheeks. He said "You look like nice people. You mind if I sit with you and talk a while?"

We listened for the next hour or so to the tale of his misery over his wife leaving him. He was a gentle giant, deeply hurt and grieving. We never found out who he really was. To us he remains the Merc who cried, and trusted strangers with his story.
Photo: i11.photobucket.com/albums/a199/don_veto/army...

Monday, November 30, 2009

Sucking the Marrow.


"There never seems to be enough time to do the things that you want once you find them". Jim Croce again. Time has a way of sneaking up on you and then passing you by. John Keating said: "sucking the marrow out of life doesn't mean choking on the bone." (Dead Poet's Society). So the trick is to get the most out of life while you can without killing your self in the process. Don't use the old "When we retire we will....." too often. If possible you want to emulate Marco Polo, quoted from Gary Jennings book: When he was dying he explained his behavior thus:" I lived my life so I would never have to say ' I always wanted to, but I never did.' ".

In other words, do what you can while you can and don't depend on the future to be there for you. Enter Sciatica. Sal and I were walking our sweet Catahaula Wednesday when an escaped pit bull attacked her. She was on a lead, so the attack was around our feet. We both tried to break up the one-sided fight, bending, pulling, kicking, lifting. The owner of the pit bull finally got there and dragged him off and away, getting bitten twice in the process. The next day, Thanksgiving, Sal started to hurt. Lower back. Leg. By Saturday she couldn't sit or stand or walk or sleep with out pain. Sunday, after x rays to be sure there was no lower spinal damage, the diagnosis: Sciatica. Take cyclobenzaprene, ibuprofen and rest. Rest. Sally.

This morning Sal is at work, hopefully taking it a bit easier. The sciatica will get better in time, but we both got a wake up call here. Both of us are a heartbeat from some life-changing event. Makes us glad we have sucked some of the marrow from life and not yet choked. And it isn't over yet. There are still pockets of marrow to be sucked, and suck we will.

Sweet Millie is fine. No bites.
Photo: 1.bp.blogspot.com/.../s400/thoreau.jpg

Tuesday, November 24, 2009

The Cheshire Cat



If you don't know where you are going, any road will get you there." Wise observation by Lewis Carroll. The Cheshire cat advised something like it to Alice. So, if you don't know or care where you are going, then take any road at all. They all get there. Ah, but the next trick is to know when you get there. Carroll said you would know when you get there because the road would end. So simple.

I can't help thinking that the world is in Wonderland with Alice. It is definitely going somewhere and we will definitely know when we get there (the end). My 80-something year old grandmother by marriage was dying of cancer and said that she didn't much mind the dying, it was the approach road she was worried about. This all fits together somehow. Curiouser and curiouser. And, we might not get any older, either.

Your Song is Your Own


I was cruis'n on the treadmill this morning with Pandora Radio streaming loud and clear. "Blood, Sweat and Tears Radio" is the station I use. The pounding rhythm is just about right for 4 miles an hour. Anyway, this is a sort of "Zen" part of the day, where thoughts come unbidden and often forgotten in the fog. The Beatles were singing "Yesterday". "Suddenly, I'm not half the man I used to be..." and I thought about the minor struggles and minor aches and pains and though Yeah, that's me. But the rest of the song is way off. Other lyrics floated by... "If I could save time in a bottle....." ....."killing me softly with her song...." ..."nothing I can do about it now...."...."He stopped loving her today....."....."put'em in a tree museum...." WHOA!!!

Bits and pieces of songs in some ways reflect bits and pieces of life, don't they? Every so often you hear a song or read a poem and say "YES"! That's ME! Maybe so, maybe not. (Jim Croce Radio is on now and Simon and Garfunkel are doing Mrs. Robinson). Don't forget to listen or read the whole thing. Life is more than bits and pieces.

And never forget: Your song is uniquely your own. No one else can sing it or know it.

Bad Decisions make Good Stories


I got this aphorism in a list from a friend and thought about my essays. Yup, many of them really represent bad decisions. Thing is the decisions didn't all seem bad at the time. You gotta wonder if the decisions we make every day that seem reasonable will be fodder for good stories later. Hmmmm.

Friday, November 20, 2009

Eating Road Kill


Sally and I had stopped at a local BBQ place for a late afternoon supper. A few other tables were occupied, but the place was mostly empty. While we were waiting for our meal, the cook came out with a large platter and went to the nearest table to the kitchen and presented it to the couple there. I couldn't see what was on the plate, but it was a fairly large pile of BBQ. The couple shook their heads, and the cook moved on to the next table. Same reaction. He got to us, presented the platter and asked "Did you order the Armadillo?" On the platter was a fully clothed whole Armadillo, barbecued and steaming hot. We said no, we didn't order the Armadillo. The cook asked if we would like to try some of the meat when he carved it, and we said "Sure, why not?" So a few minutes later we got a small plate of lean meat, redolent with wood smoke and mild sauce. It was tasty.

The story: On the way to work that morning, the cook hit the Armadillo with his car and killed it. He picked it up, brought it to work, cleaned it and cooked it slowly with the chickens and pork. He playfully presented it to the patrons and shared the meat. This guy was taking a big chance since I am sure that cooking road kill in a restaurant kitchen isn't legal, and he had no way of knowing who was sitting at the tables. But we all had a taste and a good laugh.

The second time we ate "road kill" was the whale. I think those are the only times for road kill. But, remember "Fried Green Tomatoes" ? Well, years ago Sally and I drove many times to Bradenton on Hwy 301. Just before the bridge over the Hillsboro river was a long low building. One end had a sign that read(I am making up the name since I don't remember the original one) "JONES FUNERAL HOME". And on the other end of the same building was a sigh that read "JONES BAR-B-QUE". Hmmmmm.

Wednesday, November 18, 2009

Three Score and Twenty


It occurred to me the other day that I was nearly at my "3 score and ten". I got to figuring that with luck I'd make it to 3 score and twenty. Do the math. If 80 is the end point, then when you get to 70 you have already had seven eights of your life. Only one eighth to go. Eighty years has 4160 weeks or 29200 days. The ten years left have only 520 weeks or 3650 days. Damn, that doesn't look like much compared to the original total.

What this says to me is "GO FOR IT BABY" before all you can do is watch and wait.

Maybe I can squeeze out 3 score and 25. Now that would be a nice bonus.
Photo: (by the way, this is a 70 year old farmer.)